I know… this is a bit cheesy. It was posted on Facebook
and when I first saw it I immediately thought of sending it to Lee Ann who
always loved playing in the rain. But I thought I would share it as the caption
is an appropriate segue into this week’s update.
I was not sure whether to start with the happy or sad
stories. Oftentimes I wonder if sharing these burdens doesn’t weigh down and depress
those of you who read my blogs. On the other hand, from the emails and blog
comments I receive from you, I know that there is a deeper level of
appreciation for the privileged life we live, and the multitude of choices and
opportunities that are offered to us.
I prefer to start and end on a positive note but more importantly to end with something uplifting, so I will make sure that is what I do going forward.
Zawadi on right with Daughter & Son 2010 (Zawadi means Gift in Swahili) |
I walked into TAFCOM on Monday and Nie told me that one
of our clients had died over the weekend. Zawadi has been in the hospital most
of the time I have been here. I had met her on a previous trip. She was 36 and
has left behind a husband, a daughter age 22, a granddaughter age, 4 and a son
age 10. She died of AIDS. The community met in the afternoon and donations were
made to help the family with the medical and funeral expenses. Remember, many
of these people struggle to meet their basic daily needs. But these needs lose
importance when a family suffers a tragedy. In the past year, 4 of TAFCOM’s
clients have died; TAFCOM has donated funds for the coffins. I am using your
donations to cover this expense which amounts to about $50.00.
Victoria, our special needs child from Boma,fell over the weekend, hit her head and became unconscious. She is in KCMS Hospital. her father left his business in Arusha and came home to be with her in the hospital. Her mother is at home caring for the baby and other children.
Jonas’s sister contracted cerebral malaria last week. She
has a young child (18 months) and lives in Tanga about 6 hours away. Because of
the illness she is unable to care for her young child so Jonas made a 12 hour
round trip to pick up his sister and child, and bring them to his home. Her
condition became worse over the weekend and they had to drive her 8 hours to a
hospital in Dar es Salaam. Cerebrial malaria causes a blockage of blood flow,
leading to a shortage of oxygen and nutrients to the brain. This type of
malaria can result in seizures, coma and death, especially in children.
Jonas’s mother is also visiting and has problems with
ulcers. Because of the worry about her daughter, she had a flare-up over the
weekend and was quite sick. (I will spare you the graphic details.)
These are the facts but I can’t write this without
feeling strong emotions. My heart aches for the families and the emotional toll
on Nie and Jonas. I know I have mentioned this before but I remain in awe of
the inner strength of these people. Faith plays a large role in the lives of
many. The country is 50/50 Christian and Muslim (and they get along just fine).
Thomas, our previous volunteer, and I were discussing this topic and he
remarked that their faith is probably so strong because of all the suffering
they must endure. Otherwise, there would be no rationale to explain it. I have
to agree.
My day completely turned around when I received a goody
box sent by some friends. I felt like a little kid on Christmas morning. It was
full of so many fun items, many of which I will share with TAFCOM staff and my
family here. I can’t thank them enough. In a previous blog I mentioned how I
missed my kids, friends and blueberries. Well, I got a tub of dried blueberries
and Ibrah just bought cereal so we will be having blueberries on our cereal in
the morning. I did have to have the box opened and the contents thoroughly inspected
at the Post Office. Ibrah said it was to make sure there were no babies or
snakes in the box (lol)!
I met Nie in town on Tuesday to give her the funds for
the coffin. Although the sky looked a bit ominous, it has been cloudy all week
and it rarely rains during the day so I gave it little thought. I have an
umbrella in my backpack which I carry everyday but decided to be free of it for
a change. I did wear a jacket because it was a wintry 65 degrees. Of course it
rained and it was a pretty solid rain for the last 15 minutes of my walk into
town. I must confess that I enjoy walking in the rain so it felt pretty good
and for the Tanzanians it always means the crops are growing.
I took Nie some hand-made Ohio soap that I received in my
goody box and her face just lit up. I told her I also have body lotion and
perfume samples to give the staff and tailoring women. These are items they
could never afford to purchase. I can’t wait to see their delight.
I took a nap Monday afternoon. I find sleep to be a helpful way to erase the worries of the day. But then I could not sleep that night and was up until after 2am. I spent the
time posting my blog and going through my goodies again. Needless to say,
Tuesday I was tired so I treated myself to a latte at my favorite Aroma Coffee
House. The latte was about 12 oz. and cost less than a dollar. I got it to go and discovered that they charge
for the paper to go cups. It cost
almost as much as the coffee but still a great deal plus I would put this
coffee up against Starbuck’s any day.
We were able to visit Veronica this week. I always look
forward to these visits because she always makes us laugh and today was no
exception. She was feeling much better but had used up her inhaler. She goes
thru one about every 10 days. I really think they are meant to last longer. Nie
promised to bring her another inhaler tomorrow. If the inhaler and her medicine
keep her out of the hospital that’s what matters, especially at her age.
Veronica also doesn’t see well. Today she remarked that she would like to have
glasses like mine. She told me that her eyes are good with distance but not
close up. Veronica was thrilled when I told her I had a pair for her. I brought
2 cheap pairs of drug store reading glasses with me.
Next time we visit I will get more of her life story. I
am very interested in learning about her faith. It is very strong and she often
tells us that God sent us because we tend to show up when she is in greatest
need. At the end of our visit she jokingly reminded me to bring the glasses
next time and also asked if she could have a picture of me so that I will
always be with her. This woman can make me laugh and cry in the same moment.
Veronica is an example of one of the many grandparents
raising grandchildren that TAFCOM serve. Life for the seniors in this country
is very harsh. A senior is defined as anyone 60 or older. There are 2.1 million
senior citizens in Tanzania, constituting 5.7% of the population. Most senior
citizens have low or no income. They are typically unable to work because of
their advanced age and diminished physical capabilities. In the wake of
HIV/AIDS, the elderly are typically the ones who care for their own sick adult
children affected by the AIDS virus and ultimately take on the extra burden of
caring for their orphaned grandchildren. More than 53% of AIDS orphans are
being raised by their elderly grandparents.
Elders do hold a place of respect among the people here
and there is a special greeting given to someone older – even to me! One day
during a run there were two occurrences where a parent stopped and prompted
their child to say “Shikamoo”. This is the respectful greeting for an older person.
It was so sweet to see the parents taking time to teach this to their children.
I stopped both times, thanking the children and exchanging greetings with them.
More often than not this is how I am greeted. It is hard for me to know when to
use it because I am really bad at guessing ages. Living as hard a life as some
of these people do, many look older than they are. It is very weird for me
because my age is higher than the average life expectancy of a Tanzanian which
is 59.
Mwamini''s Children |
The same day we visited Veronica we stopped to see
Mwamini and Rose. I was sad that Mwamini was not home but she was out selling
her laundry soap. (Debra now buys her laundry soap from Mwamini.) She has also
added a small amount of vegetables for selling. Rose was there with two of her
siblings. Rose never looks healthy and when she let me pick her up I noticed
her forehead was very hot. Nie has talked to Mwamini since our visit and she
explained that Rose is feverish much of the time. Her business is suffering
because she spends so much time at health clinics and no one can tell her what
is wrong with Rose. It is very distressing to try and put myself in Mwamini’s
shoes. Her life is such a vicious cycle that never seems to give her a break
with a future that is quite bleak.
We were unable to attend Zawadi’s funeral because it was
held in the town of her husband’s family. As we walked around Pasua I asked
about how a funeral is conducted. A Christian funeral is not too much different
than one held in the states. After a person has died, family members gather at
the home of the deceased to discuss funeral plans. Neighbors and friends stop
by to offer condolences and make donations for the funeral expenses. Instead of
friends bringing food, the family of the deceased feeds those who come to pay
their respects. On the day of the funeral there is a designated starting point
where everyone meets to drive together to the church. The family and relatives
may rent a daladala if they need transportation. Others must arrange their own.
There is a church ceremony followed by a burial. There are cemeteries but it is
also common for the deceased to be buried on the family’s property. Cremation
is not a funeral rite that is practiced here.
Something funny happened on the way to ……work one day
this week. As I have shared in the past, pedestrians are on the bottom of the
transportation food chain. I had to make a stop before work and took a
different route. I have taken this route several times and I cross the same
busy road I cross every day but in a different spot. There is actually a
crosswalk which also serves as a speed bump; it is wide and raised. It may slow
some vehicles but the fact that it is a crosswalk is totally disregarded.
Except on Thursday when I am waiting to cross the road. I notice a pickup truck
stopping but see a motorcycle behind him who is going very fast. I assume he is
going to come barreling around the truck so I wait. The next thing I know the
motorcycle pulls to a stop next to the truck. I look at the motorcycle driver
totally dumbfounded and he motions me to cross the road. I was in total
disbelief; I have been here 4 months and this is the first time anyone has
acknowledged my presence on the road!
Can you find the frisbee? |
Greens from the Garden Served with Lunch |
Garden at Children's Center Tree branches are used as "fencing" around the garde, |
Top 6 (There was a tie for 2nd place) |
Well done, well done.
Keep it up (child's name), keep it up (child's name).
They also say this whenever any student leads the class
or presents to the class.
We have a new volunteer at the house. Molly is from California and attends Notre Dame. She is teaching in a government Secondary school so I will learn more about the education system and should be able to observe a few classes.
We celebrated Debra’s birthday and Molly and I took her to Deli Chez for lunch and ice cream. Their ice cream is really good. I like sitting on the second floor because it is open and gives a great view of one of Moshi’s main streets. I love the noises, and hustle and bustle of this town; there is so much activity.
Molly, Me & Debra at Deli Chez |
View of Moshi from Deli Chez |
I am ending this update with a poem that is even cheesier
than the beginning quote. Before Molly came, Ibrah told me that her mom was
pretty nervous about the trip. Ibrah asked if I would email Molly and tell a
little about myself and my experience so she could share it with her mom. We
exchanged several emails. So as part of her welcoming I thought it would be fun
to post a poem on the board in our eating area.
Molly & Welcome Poem |
Welcome to Tanzania
We are happy to see ya.
We like your name, Molly
‘Cause it rhymes with Ugali.
We hope you like to eat
Each meal is a treat.
So get some rest and settle in
A wonderful journey is about to begin.